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"In Trying Times, Just Keep Trying!"


by Merrilee Boyack

What do you do when the storms of life leave you battered and bruised? When life seems chaotic on every level and there is no relief in sight? When the very worst thing you can imagine happens to you?

When author Merrilee Boyack faced a series of difficult trials - including a diagnosis of cancer - she had to confront those questions head-on. Drawing from her own experience, Merrilee shares the valuable lessons she learned about overcoming adversity, finding physical and spiritual healing, and embracing joy. She reminds us that in trying times there are things you can change and things you can't change - but you always have choices.

In her most powerful book to date, Merrilee Boyack examines the essential choices that confront each of us in trying times and offers insight and encouragement for us to just keep trying.

Release Date: July 2008, Pages: 160, Deseret Book Company

"Toss the Guilt and Catch the Joy"



by Merrilee Boyack

Are you tired of worrying about things you can't control? Do you feel distracted or overwhelmed by the daily demands of living? Do you wonder if it's even possible to make space in your busy life to become the person you really want to be? In her down- to- earth style, popular author and speaker Merrilee Boyack presents eight pairs of contrasting characteristics, inviting women to consider their own tendencies: Faithful or fearful? Focused or distracted? Peaceful or worried? She then discusses how we can move from where we are to where we want to be without feeling guilty or discouraged.

Release Date: July 2008, Pages: 160, Deseret Book Company

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Toss the Guilt and Catch the Joy: A Woman's Guide to a Better Life 

"52 Weeks of Fun Family Service"
by Merrilee Boyack

Tired of the "Me- Me- Me" syndrome? Want your children to be LESS greedy and selfish and MORE generous, charitable, and hardworking? Then you will absolutely love this book! Merrilee Boyack shares 52 ideas on how to get children to love to serve. Each chapter includes an engaging service idea, modifications for young children or teenagers, family discussion tips, and fun family activities. Primary presidencies, youth leaders, and Scout leaders looking for great service activity suggestions will also treasure this book.

Release Date: December 2007, Pages: 224, Deseret Book Company

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52 Weeks of Fun Family Service

"Strangling Your Husband is NOT an Option"
A Practical Guide to Dramatically Improving Your Marriage
by Merrilee Boyack

Things can get pretty crazy in marital relationships. As one review has said, "What wife hasn't felt like strangling her husband at least once during their marriage?"
With her lighthearted personality and humor, author Merrilee Boyack shares twenty-five years' worth of marital perspective in this practical guide to improve any marriage. As an estate-planning attorney Merrilee has dealt with many struggling couples going through divorce. (Seven-year marriages seem to have the greatest challenges.) She offers practical tips for women who want to better understand men (particularly their husbands) and build happier marriages.
She invites women to dump the guilt, to be open enough to learn about areas they'd like to improve, and then take the steps to make those changes. Readers will also find a wealth of fun and practical advice in chapters like "The Five `Don'ts' and Five `Do's' of Wifehood," "But How Do I Change My Husband?" and "No, Really, How Can I Change Him?"

Release Date: June 200, Pages: 256, Deseret Book Company

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Strangling Your Husband Is Not an Option: A Practical Guide to Dramatically Improving Your Marriage

"The Parenting Breakthrough"
A Real-Life Plan to Teach Your Kids to Work, Save Money and Be Truly Independent


by Merrilee Boyack

Fun and practical, author Merrilee Boyack will have readers laughing out loud as well as feeling grateful for her parenting advice. She’s a mom who’s spent the last 22 years in the real-life work of parenting. “I have four sons, 14, 16, 19 and 23. “You know what that means” she writes. “I’m an absolute expert in raising children 23 and older.” Merrilee offers the “LDS parenting owner’s manual they forgot to give you” from training kids- from toddlers to teens- to be independent. It includes ideas for how to teach kids about money, investing, debt, and the importance of earning their own money; how to help children with emotional and spiritual development ; and much more.

Release Date: July 2005, Pages: 256, Deseret Book Company

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The Parenting Breakthrough: Real-Life Plan to Teach Kids to Work, Save Money, and Be Truly Independent



"Teaching Your
Children to Fly"

"How Do I
Change My Husband?"

A Guide to Independence

A Practical Guide to Dramatically Improving Your Marriage

by Merrilee Boyack
by Merrilee Boyack

Want your children to move out of the house someday? Practical, funny, and always sensible, Merrilee Boyack, author of The Parenting Breakthrough, shares field- tested ideas that will help children become self- reliant and independent. She talks about the importance of chores (or, as she calls them, "opportunities to serve"). She teaches parents "The Plan" and what children can do, year by year, to build confidence, life skills, and self- esteem. She also teaches parents how to use privileges and awards as motivators to help children learn to perform the tasks and jobs that will make them independent adults.

Release Date: July 2007, Deseret Book Company

After twenty-five years of marriage, Merrilee Boyack shares her marriage secrets in this new talk on CD recorded in front of a live audience. Merrilee offers practical tips for women who want to better understand men (particularly their husbands) and build happier marriages. She helps women understand how men think and teaches practical communication skills and tools to help strengthen any marriage.
" For the record, I reviewed this recording first to `protect the guilty' (namely me) and make sure that I could yank anything that even remotely hinted at my tortuous journey toward being
a better husband and father. Surprisingly (probably due to her amnesia), I didn't have to exercise eminent domain or late-night stealth editing. The honest truth is that Merrilee has a LOT of great ideas to share. If you think her books are funny, inspirational, educational, and motivational, you have no idea what it is like to actually live with her. She is the real deal."--Steven Boyack, the author's husband

Release Date: July 2007, Deseret Book Company


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Estate Planning: What Happens When I Die or Become Disabled?
We will review what are living trusts, wills, community property agreements, and durable powers of attorney to plan for death and disability. We will also discuss estate taxes and probate and answer questions from the audience. Free consultations available.
Being Financially Prepared
We will review all aspects of being prepared with finances including savings, investing, budgeting, estate planning, etc.

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We Can Stare Our Fears in the Eye and Win
We will discuss the various types of fears and their effect on our enjoyment of life and then develop specific ways to deal with them.
Wipe Out Worries and Win Peace
We will analyze four areas which can cause worry: problem ownership, perspective, patience, and peace. Dealing with these, we can liberate ourselves from paralyzing worry.
Enjoy to the End! (for women only)
We will explore overcoming guilt and releasing the burden of worldly perfection and rediscover our ability to play. You CAN play without guilt!
Making a Difference In Our Community
We will discuss the Prophet’s emphasis on serving our neighbors and on being an influence for good in our communities and how this fits in with this part of our lives.
Midlife “Evaluation” not Crisis or
the “What’s Next?” or “ Is This All There Is?” Syndromes...

We will discuss the changes we face in midlife that shows up in two ways and how to jump-start our engines to have a fulfilling and rich second half of our lives.
Get Control of “I’m SO Busy, I Don’t Have Time for That!”
We will analyze how we use our time and how to add new learning and risk-taking into our lives. There will be specific emphasis on choices and trying new directions. We will discuss conscious direction of our lives.
  Banish Chaos-Organizing Home and Family
In this lecture, we will learn specific ways to overcome disorganization in our homes and lives so that we can feel free to enjoy them without being controlled by them.
  Move Forward!
We’ll talk about setting direction to our lives and adding speed and energy to get our lives moving forward effectively.
  The 6 Steps of Power Networking
In this lecture, we will review 6 powerful steps to increase your networking skills. This will change both your business and personal connections in a dramatic way.

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Ten Do's & Don'ts of Wifehood
We will discuss the unique role of being a wife with specific helps on what to do and on what not to do...
But How Do I Change My Husband?!?
We'll explore how to communicate with our husbands to cause change and how to change ourselves. We’ll learn how to understand them and help them grow.
How to Be a Fun Living Wife
We will enjoy a fun class on bringing fun and spice into being a fun-living wife.
How to Combine "He" and "She" & Not Lose "The Real Me"
We'll talk about personal development after marriage...

The Parents’ Owners’ Manual They Forgot to Give You
We will discuss the purposes of parenting, how we can develop our parenting philosophy, using the family to achieve our parenting goals, and practical aspects to raising kids.

Training Children to Be Independent
We’ll discuss how to have a plan for training our children to be independent by age 18. This will focus on life skills and we’ll discuss ways to get our children to work (beyond chore charts) and how to modify these as the kids get older.
Teaching Children about Money – Exposing the ATM Makes Money Myth!
Children need to learn to manage their money and we’ll explore everything from allowances to jobs to saving for college or missions. We’ll be discussing the practical how-to’s involved in the process.

Parental Potpourri – Surviving Day to Day
We will talk about practical tips for running a family to provide ideas for class members to modify and incorporate into their families including communication tips, organizational ideas, family home evening planning, etc.

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Eliminate the Three C's: Comparing, Conforming, and Competing
We will discuss the negative impacts of comparing, conforming, and competing and how to reduce them in our lives. We'll explore ways to see the truth in ourselves and in reaching our destiny.

  My Kids are So Different!
We will discuss the uniqueness of each child and how to raise them to appreciate their gifts and strengths. We will focus on the positive aspects of their uniqueness and how to deemphasize comparisons on the home.
  Teaching Kids Discipleship through Service
We will talk about the importance of teaching children to serve. We’ll also explore many ideas for family service and how this can teach children charity and love.
  Your Home—Heavenly Haven or Chaotic Craziness?
The home environment is key to raising children. We’ll discuss how to have a house of learning, feeling loved, having the Spirit, developing unity, and maintaining order.
  Will the Real “Me” Please Stand Up?
Embracing individuality. We’ll explore how to be true to your real personality and to be confident and strong with yourself.
  From Cowardly to Courageous
We’ll talk about the various types of fears which prevent youth from taking charge of their lives and then develop specific ways to deal with them. They’ll never be the same again.
  Use Your Own Flashlight through those Mists of Darkness
We’ll talk about how to use the Holy Ghost to guide us in standing for truth in a dark world and how to then lead others.

Don’t Just Be Good, Be Good for Something!
We will learn specific ways to be an influence for good in our communities and how one person can make a tremendous difference in society.

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Consecration – The Blueprint for Living
We will discuss commitment and consecration to gain a deeper understanding of what it is and how we can apply this principle more fully in our lives. We will move toward become more fully consecrated to building up the kingdom of God.

Making a Difference in the World
We will discuss the Prophet’s emphasis on serving our neighbors and on being an influence for good in our communities and how this fits in with this part of our lives.
Standing for Light and Truth in a Dark World
In the latter days, each of us will be called to stand up for truth. We will discuss the why and how of taking a vital stand for righteousness.
Finding Your Own Path for Dedicated Living
Many of us wonder where to start and how we fulfill our particular mission in life. We will talk about how to discover our personal path and how to follow that path.
  Emulating Christ’s Strengths
We’ll discuss the great strengths exhibited by Christ and how we can emulate those attributes in our own lives by standing up for truth and righteousness in the ways that He did.
Making Weakness into Strength
We’ll talk about how to analyze our spiritual weaknesses and how to rely on the Lord to help us turn these into strengths. We’ll discuss eliminating fear and trusting in the Lord and listening to the Spirit as He helps us to grow.
Be True to Your Individual Strengths
We’ll discuss identifying our individual strengths both spiritually and in our personalities. We’ll then discuss how we can use these abilities and gifts to bless those around us and help build the kingdom.
  Gather Strength through Daily Living
We’ll talk about our spiritual habits and incorporating the Spirit into our everyday lives so that we can gather the spiritual and emotional strength we need to survive in today’s world.
  Building a Relationship with Christ
We will learn how to build a relationship with Christ that goes beyond surface understanding and commitment. As we explore this relationship, we’ll discuss practical applications of living our testimony of the Savior and not just having one.
  Protecting Another’s Name
We’ll discuss the great importance of how we speak of each other and treat one another. This simple principle is one of the most revealing to determine if we are committed to living like Christ.
The Yardstick of Our Testimony
We’ll review how to measure our testimony by the Lord’s standard as detailed in Matthew 25:40. We’ll discuss how our treatment of the least of our brethren can be improved to better reflect our commitment.
  Obedience with Exactness
We will talk about increasing our obedience to the Savior’s commandments and how this will result in an increased testimony of Him. This will include how to apply this principle to our everyday living.
E13.   Repentance and Forgiveness – The Lord’s Cleansing Process
We’ll talk about the purpose of repentance and why forgiveness is such an important element of this principle. We’ll also discuss becoming clean and improving in a daily basis as we move toward sanctification.
E14.   Learning from the Holy Ghost
We’ll discuss the ways the Holy Ghost communicates with us and how we can learn from the spirit to be attuned with Heavenly Father’s will in our lives.

Obedience – The Key to Receiving Blessings
We will learn about obedience and the Lord’s use of consequences. We’ll focus on why we should be obedient and the blessings that flow from choosing the right.

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